It’s November 2 and that means it’s Day of the Dead. I should be further along in my progress with Party Planning Solutions – as in, there should be way more posts up by now. 🙄
Yup there should be content for each and every special occasion, including Día de Muertos, but I have something to share of personal nature….
I haven’t quite been up to celebrating this holiday or any other truth be told, because my beloved Pops passed away in early October.
He had colon cancer and it was terribly difficult having to learn how to best support him while he was ill for two and a half years, only to lose him a few weeks ago.
Today, Day of the Dead is simply a painful reminder that I am still grieving.
What is Day of the Dead Anyways?
Typically celebrated in Mexico, Day of the Dead (in Spanish, it’s called Día de Muertos) is a holiday when friends and family come together to remember loved ones who have passed away.
The basic concept is that this helps in supporting their individual spiritual journeys.
It’s not meant to be a day full of sadness and tears, but rather a day of celebration because the dead “awake” and celebrate along side their loved ones.
There, I said it. Grief does in fact, suck! I have some more thoughts on how much grieving bites, but I’m trying to keep this blog rated PG and the words that come to mind ain’t too kid friendly.
According to the Kubler Ross Model, there are 5 Stages of Grief:
But for those who know better, those stages were meant for patients with terminal illnesses – not necessarily for loved ones that have lost someone dear to them.
Here are some of the actual feelings (in no particular order) I have been dealing with since my Dad died:
Not too pretty, eh?
What’s worse is that I feel just plain ol’ bad for even talking about how I feel, because I don’t want to sound like a broken record to the friends and family who have been so very kind and thoughtful over the past month.
Should I Celebrate Day of the Dead or Just Cry?
So here’s the deal… I feel like crying…all day. Everyday. Day of the Dead is no different.
That’s just where I’m at right now. That’s ok.
The key words being: right now. Not forever, just for now.
But I’m a tough gal and I’m trying. Trying to get back on track. Trying to get back into the swing of things. Attempting to get my Party Planning mojo back.
So on that note, my attempt at “celebrating” this holiday and honoring my bestest buddy, my Dad is a small alter decorated with candles, plants and pictures:
How Do You Celebrate Day of Dead?
November 2nd is a day set to remember and honor those who have passed away. There are many ways to do this, but no matter what the ritual, celebrating Día de Muertos is truly meant as a Celebration of Life.
Here are some ideas:
Visit the gravesite
Many people use this day to visit their loved one at the graveyard. More times then not, the site is “freshened up” by family members and friends, and candles and flowers are placed on the grave.
Make an alter
A simple or elaborate one, it doesn’t matter because you are honoring your loved one! The standard trimmings for a Day of the Dead alter are : Marigold flowers, ceramic skulls, Pan de Muerto, candles and of course, pictures of your special person!
Host a celebration with loved ones
You can make it a true celebration of life by hosting friends & family. If you need some ideas for food, decorations and party favors, then our Day of the Dead Party Ideas board on Pinterest is a great place to start.